Popular Quotes from How to Talk to Anyone Book
“Don’t flash an immediate smile when you greet someone, as though anyone who walked into your line of sight would be the beneficiary. Instead, look at the other person’s face for a second. Pause. Soak in their persona. Then let a big, warm, responsive smile flood over your face and overflow into your eyes. It will engulf the recipient like a warm wave. The split-second delay convinces people your flooding smile is genuine and only for them.”
“take consolation from the fact that the brighter the individual, the more he or she detests small talk.”
“A wise politician, when asked if he were for or against Prohibition, answered: If by alcohol, you mean the dangerous drink which destroys families, than I am fully for Prohibition. But if, by alcohol, you mean noble drink which promotes good fellowship and makes every meal a pleasure, then I am against it.”
“So how do you find out what someone does for a living? (I thought you’d never ask.) You simply practice the following eight words. All together now: “How . . . do . . . you . . . spend . . . most . . . of . . . your . . . time?”
“Keep good eye contact.”
“great posture, a heads-up look, a confident smile, and a direct gaze.” The ideal image for somebody who’s a Somebody.”
“When you act as though you like someone, you start to really like them.”
“How to Make People Want to Start a Conversation with You Singles proficient at meeting potential sweethearts without the benefit of introduction (in the vernacular, making a “pickup”), have developed a deliciously devious technique that works equally well for social or corporate networking purposes. The technique requires no exceptional skill on your part, only the courage to sport a simple visual prop called a “Whatzit.” What’s a Whatzit? A Whatzit is anything you wear or carry that is unusual—a unique pin, an interesting purse, a strange tie, or an amusing hat. A Whatzit is any object that draws people’s attention and inspires them to approach you and ask, “Uh, what’s that?” Your Whatzit can be as subtle or overt as your personality and the occasion permit.”
“I always try to turn the spotlight on the other person.” The longer you keep it shining away from you, the more interesting he or she finds you.”
“The study showed women who were slower to smile in corporate life were perceived as more credible.” As Missy talked, I began to think about history-making women like Margaret Thatcher, Indira Gandhi, Golda Meir, Madeleine Albright, and other powerful women of their ilk. Not one was known for her quick smile. Missy continued, “The study went on to say a big, warm smile is an asset. But only when it comes a little slower, because then it has more credibility.” From that moment on,”
“When we find people with the supernatural powers of perception to recognize our remarkableness, we become addicted to the heady drug of their appreciation.”
“The exact moment that two humans lay eyes on each other has awesome potency.”
“when meeting someone, our brains are in overdrive. Remember Shakespeare’s Julius Caesar? He said of Cassius, he “has a lean and hungry look . . . he thinks too much . . . such men are dangerous.”
“Your eyes are personal grenades that have the power to detonate people’s emotions.”
“grow more by listening than talking.”
“Do humanity and yourself a favor. Never, ever, give just a one-sentence response to the question, “Where are you from?” Give the asker some fuel for his tank, some fodder for his trough.”
“There are two kinds of people in this life: Those who walk into a room and say,
‘Well, here I am!’ And those who walk in and say,
‘Ahh, there you are.”“The moment someone looks at you, he or she experiences a massive hit, the impact of which lays the groundwork for the entire relationship. Just give ’em great posture, a heads-up look, a confident smile, and a direct gaze.”
“Never let the phrase thank you stand naked and alone. ‘Thank you for being such a good customer.’ ‘Thank you for being so loving.”
“At the end of the conversation, look the individual right in the eye. Say his or her name and proceed to curl all ten toes with the Killer Compliment.”
“whenever people meet you, they take an instant mental snapshot. That image of you becomes the data they deal with for a very long time.”
“3 His wisdom for the ages said success lay in smiling, showing interest in other people, and making them feel good about themselves.”
“Visualization works best when you feel totally relaxed. Only when you have a calm state of mind can you get clear, vivid images. Do your visualization in the quiet of your home or car before leaving for the party, the convention, or the big-deal meeting. See it all in your mind’s eye ahead of time.”
“scrutinized”
“You see, nobody gets to the top alone. Over the years, people who seem to ‘have it all’ have captured the hearts and conquered the minds of hundreds of others who helped boost them, rung by rung, to the top of whatever corporate or social ladder they chose.”
“Technique 52: Carrier pigeon kudos People immediately grow a beak and metamorphosize themselves into carrier pigeons when there’s bad news. (It’s called gossip.) Instead, become a carrier of good news and kudos. Whenever you hear something complimentary about someone, fly to them with the compliment. Your fans may not posthumously stuff you and put you on display in a museum like Stumpy Joe. But everyone loves the Carrier Pigeon of kind thoughts.”
“Studies show mental rehearsal helps weekend athletes sharpen their golf, their tennis, their running, whatever their favourite activity. Experts agree if you see the pictures, hear the sounds, and feel the movements of your body in your mind before you do the activity, the effect is powerful.”
“cliquish”
“Small talk is about putting people at ease. Your unspoken answer to their unspoken question, “How do you like me so far?” must be, “Wow! I really like you.”
“the more eye contact, the more positive feelings.”
